Non-negotiables are the little and sometimes big things that we set-up in our lives to create more balance, fun, peace of mind or just plain happiness. As an example, here are 2 of my non-negotiables that keep me from going a little crazy:
#1). Sundays are non-negotiable. Unless its something fun with friends or family, Sunday’s are simply off limits for any type of housework---no cooking, cleaning, laundry—nothing. It’s simply a day that I can do nothing—or do whatever I want to do that does not involve work! On Sundays I love going to church, going home to nap afterwards and then watch movies all day. It may sound boring to some, but this Sunday is couch potato day!!
#2). If you drain me, you have to go! I simply cannot have drama in my life—from NO ONE—family, friends, Co-Workers—No Way. Now there are times when we simply can’t avoid some drama-ful situations in our life—but if it isn’t necessary—then please do not disrupt my zen from within!
Decide on what matters in your life! Before I came up with my Sunday-Non-Negotiable day, I was stressing myself out trying to get the house in perfect order before my work week. Not to mention I would take work from my job and do that on Sunday’s as well. I went to bed stressed every Sunday night for a few years. There was no rule that said I had to do this every Sunday, but it was a rule I made for myself. Enough already!!--I needed to stop waking up on Monday mornings stressed out! So, I broke that rule and now my Sunday’s are non-negotiable-that means no more working—just Chill-laxing!! (I like that word!!)
Create your Non-Negotiables today by simply considering the following:
1). What is most important to you right now?
2). Which of these do you need right now? Peace, Fun, Family Time?
3). What self-made rule can you break that will provide more balance in your life?
We can all use a little bit of non-negotiation with ourselves!! Take a moment to create your non-negotiables! Drop me a line if you’d like to share yours!!
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I liiikkee this! I too have non-negotiables (perhaps a few too many...LOL), but they work for me and the type of environment in which I thrive, so I keep them. Here are a few from my list:
ReplyDelete1. No energy vampires allowed. If the thought of talking with you makes me want to sigh deeply and purse my lips, then you are relegated to occasion email contact, period. I have many wonderful things going on right now, and I need all my energy for those things, thank you very much!
2. Work may not in the way of exercise. Even on my I-can't-believe-it's-8pm-already days, I must make time to do something for my body. Sometimes, that means 5 mins of ab exercises here, or grabbing my 5lb weights and marching up and down the stairs there, but Mama's gettin' her exercise!
3. I manage my time, not you! Unless you're on of my daughters, you are not allowed to bully me into your time slot by calling incessantly or any other I-need-to-talk-to-you now tactics. I have to feel in control of my time, or all goes bonkers.
There are more, but I don't want to be a comment hog :)
Thanks for sharing...I like this post!
I started off with non-negotiables, but somehow over time I have negotiated on them. thanks to your post I will be revisiting them and re-discovering my backbone! Great post. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteOh I am ALL OVER #2! I hate to be drained from other people's stuff. I have a few people in my life that I actually have to pick and choose when I deal with them. I have to be ready and actually brace myself because if I don't they will suck me down the drain with them!! Very good post!
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